People like him – straight, married, affluent, Chinese, English-educated – get to choose. People like him get to decide what is “good for society”; people like him get to decide what (and who) “society” is, period.
After 20 years, the world has finally caught up with Daft Punk, so the helmet-clad retro-futurists are embarking on a new mission: to make music breathe again
There are cover stories and then there are cover stories.
i dont want my words to be taken out of context
i dont want to be infantilized because i refuse to be sexualized
i dont want to be molested at shows or on the street by people who perceive me as an object that exists for their personal satisfaction
i dont want to live in a world where…
Terrific track from both the JPs.
Kenneth Norton in the hilarious essay How to Work With Software Engineers
The whole catty and repetitive debate over Sheryl Sandberg’s book and message helped me realise to two things - why books like that are still needed, and why women are taking ages to achieve gender equality in corporate leadership.
As summarised by the NPR piece,
Lean In, which Sandberg describes as “sort of a feminist manifesto,” has been slammed by Maureen Dowd, Jodi Kantor, Judith Shulevitz and others for its elitism, for being hard on women and soft on institutional sexism and for making an unfair exemplar of the 43-year-old Sandberg’s own Amazonian accomplishments.
Maureen Dowd’s NYT piece even makes several transparent attempts at undermining Sandberg’s goals with alliterations,
Now that she has domesticated the Facebook frat house, Sandberg wants to be “the pompom girl for feminism,” as she calls it. She has a grandiose plan to become the PowerPoint Pied Piper in Prada ankle boots reigniting the women’s revolution — Betty Friedan for the digital age. She wants women to stop limiting and sabotaging themselves.
And an admittedly hilarious comparison to Rosa Parks,
Sandberg has been recruiting corporations to join her Lean In Foundation, which will create the Lean In Community and Lean In Circles, which are, as The Times’s Jodi Kantor wrote, like “consciousness-raising groups of yore.” The circles will entail 8 to 12 peers who will meet monthly and use “education modules” to learn the skills to pursue equality. (Like how Rosa Parks used bus modules.) The debut assignment is a video on how to command more authority by altering how you speak and sit.
However, Dowd does make a keen observation on what is perhaps the key reason for the flood of sarcasm and outrage at Sandberg,
Sandberg may mean well, and she may be setting up a run for national office. But she doesn’t understand the difference between a social movement and a social network marketing campaign. Just because digital technology makes connecting possible doesn’t mean you’re actually reaching people.
People come to a social movement from the bottom up, not the top down. Sandberg has co-opted the vocabulary and romance of a social movement not to sell a cause, but herself.
She says she’s using marketing for the purpose of social idealism. But she’s actually using social idealism for the purpose of marketing.
All very valid points.
However, does concern that Sandberg is exploiting a cause to further her own interests justify the overzealous put-downs and jibes? Yes the topic is relevant to all women, and I’m guessing that naturally, female journalists were riled by Sandberg’s tone and seemingly top-down approach.
In the midst of all the divisive opinions, isn’t it ironic that women spend more time arguing with each other on details, rather than teaming up to influence the very people who will play a large role in helping us achieve the equality we desire - i.e. the men?
It’s the working adult’s version of what Ms. Norbury advised against in Mean Girls,
Well, I don’t know who wrote this book, but you all have got to stop calling each other sluts and whores. It just makes it ok for guys to call you sluts and whores.
We want the same thing - gender equality in the workplace, with increased female leadership.
Women bashing on women isn’t going to get us there.